Coming Out

Note the following was originally published in November of 2019
Some of the linked pages need updating. My perspective on some things has changed somewhat and other things are just not current. I will be updating those pages as I have time. Please use the contact page to let me know if you have any questions.

Welcome to my coming out party!

Are you confused, hopefully, this site will help.  I was designated male at birth. Although that never fit I tried to do all of the things society expected of me.  I got married, had kids, even joined the army.  Yet no matter how much I tried I was never ‘one of the guys’.  

Then my life started to change when a couple years ago I was blessed with the opportunity to explore who I am inside.  That lead to an amazing journey of self-discovery.  Along the way, I have learned a lot about myself, my passions, and what it means to be a transgender woman.  

However, I realize a lot of you may not be all that familiar with the world of LGBT, as I wasn’t for a long time.  And all of this brings up some unique questions.  So to help resolve some of this, I have written my story below, along with an FAQ and some other resources.  I hope this helps you understand who I am.

My Story, the short version

I have always known I was different.  Even as a young child I didn’t fit in.  But I always hid it, even from myself. As long as I managed to keep it hidden I was able to handle things.  As some of my kids came out as LGBT, things started changing; it wasn’t so easy to hide anymore.  When we moved to Utah, I started learning more about LGBT and how it relates to me. At the time I didn’t know where that was going to lead, but my wife and I worked through it together.  After months of research and working with medical professionals, we finally figured out I am a transgender woman.